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Aug 19Liked by Nancy Friedman

So much to savor here, Nancy! But I think my favorite is your #motleycore coinage, whose example was clearly inspired by my second grade wardrobe’s theme of pairing random dresses with random pants.

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Thanks, Jessica! Let's make #motleycore happen.

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Aug 22Liked by Nancy Friedman

+1 to "motleycore". And I'm not even a fashion guy.

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Aug 20Liked by Nancy Friedman

About your footnote number 1: I feel the same way about “influencer,” so I was taken aback when I learned, doing my recreational Duolingo, that the Italian word for influencer is… Influencer. At least I will use no brain space trying to remember it!

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What?! Not “influenza”?

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Maybe they’re hoping that if they don’t make it real Italian it will just go away?

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Aug 20Liked by Nancy Friedman

As soon as I saw 'demure' I thought of a scene from, of all things, the 1990 movie Total Recall. This two-minute clip has Arnold Schwarzenegger choosing the parameters of his "trip." It seemed an odd script choice at the time and it still does!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hJXx9HE2Rm4

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Hah! That's great. I've somehow never seen Total Recall; must fix that!

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Sep 2Liked by Nancy Friedman

Another movie connection: watching the 2001 film Spy Game this weekend, I laughed out loud to see in the credits that Robert Redford's character is named Nathan D. Muir. Since the D. did figure into the plot -- I'm not sure it even got mentioned -- this is perhaps a subtle joke on the part of one of the writers.

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Another movie I've never seen! Amazon calls it "pulse-pounding."

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"Since the D. did NOT figure into the plot..."

Brad Pitt's young and cute, Redford's, um, not as old as he is now. The camera is always in motion, whether the scene requires it or not. I'll give it a good not great rating.

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Aug 19Liked by Nancy Friedman

this is fantastic! thanks for doing a deep dive on this!

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Thanks, Sarah!

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Aug 19Liked by Nancy Friedman

Usually, when I find out about something like, "very x, very demure", it's been dead for a year.

I'm still working on "bad", or "sick" meaning "good."

These articles are keeping me very mindful.

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Just doing my job, sir.

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Love this as I've been slow to catch up on this one over the last couple of weeks.

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Aug 19Liked by Nancy Friedman

18th cent image: 'demure as an old whore at a christening'.

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Aug 19Liked by Nancy Friedman

Even Joe Biden (or his social team) hopped on the "demure" train on Twitter...

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I'm pretty much a non-Twitterer these days, so I miss this!

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Aug 19Liked by Nancy Friedman

Beyond #motleycore, which is brilliant, I also loved the Schultz quote, “[i]n the land of internet humour, there is a fine line between cultural relevance and cringe.”

It seems that’s true of *everything on the internet, humour or not…

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Aug 19Liked by Nancy Friedman

Two comments. One, it's interesting how it often shows up in the form "very x, very demure." Two, I wonder what the connection if any is with the verb "demur," meaning raising objections.

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Hi Ben — as I write in the post (citing John Kelly):

>>Alternatively, demure (pronounced de-MYOOR) may be related to demur (pronounced de-MURR), whose verb form means “to object, to show reluctance” and which came into English from French demorer, “to delay or hinder.” (Demur can also be a noun that means “hesitation” or “protest.”)<<

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Aug 30Liked by Nancy Friedman

I gotta read more carefully!

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Aug 19Liked by Nancy Friedman

Also, in California state legal practice IIRC (not a CA lawyer, I need to clarify) a demurrer is the fancy name for a motion to dismiss.

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